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hedgiewan1. You've talked about wanting to be a surrogate mother. What do you expect to get out of this experience, and what's the origination of the impulse?
2. If you could be really good at something you're not, what would it be and why?
3. What things are important to you to do before you die?
4. What have you learned about love (doesn't have to be the romantic variety) that surprised you?
5. What have you done that's been the most personally difficult?
1. You've talked about wanting to be a surrogate mother. What do you expect to get out of this experience, and what's the origination of the impulse?
I've heard a lot of women my age say, out of fear or dislike of inconvenience or whatever, say that they would like children but don't want to bear them. My preference would be rather the opposite; I am interested in the physicality of pregnancy but not in the annoying little brat that ensues. This may change, of course, but it would require a certain situation set that I am not anticipating or expecting.
This desire is linked to the reason that I'd like to study fertility/reproductive medicine/infertility. I can identify with the desire to raise a child that is genetically yours. That is just a question of priorities, but I don't think it's specifically bad or good. For some people, though, it is necessary but impossible. I really respect anyone who wants a child so badly, because they love children and want to really connect and make a good, whole person out of the deal.
I also think that this is such a huge favor to be doing for a stranger, and that if I can make that much happiness for another couple it would be a wonderful thing.
That being said, I would be immensely picky about who I would do this for. Both because the attitude of the parents-to-be influences your life for years, and because I'm not giving no baby to some backwards-ass fucks who aren't raging liberals.
*cough*
Basically, I'm not willing to cause a baby to be brought up in an environment that I would not choose.
2. If you could be really good at something you're not, what would it be and why?
I have always longed to be able to play the fiddle well, but have always had trouble with stringed instruments. I occasionally surf ebay for something to practice on, but never end up getting one. I would also love to be able to sing really well, but one thing, really, it would be the fiddle.
Or maybe to be able to sleep like a normal human being, but that's not so much "talent" as "screwy brain."
3. What things are important to you to do before you die?
I can't think of anything in particular that I really must do. The things like exploring space are so far-fetched that I've grown accustomed to the reality that they will likely never happen, and most other things are so intangible (be able to express to people how much I love them, make something I'm proud of) that they can't ever really be checked off a list.
4. What have you learned about love (doesn't have to be the romantic variety) that surprised you?
Nothing that I can think of. It's hard to be surprised by something you know is omnipotent.
5. What have you done that's been the most personally difficult?
Asking for help when I needed it. It's easy to ask for help on little things, every day, but the big stuff is a different question.
Also, trying to live past regret is something intensely difficult that I am still learning to do. I'm not entirely convinced that it's the *right* thing to do, but since you can't change the past it seems like the only option.
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2. If you could be really good at something you're not, what would it be and why?
3. What things are important to you to do before you die?
4. What have you learned about love (doesn't have to be the romantic variety) that surprised you?
5. What have you done that's been the most personally difficult?
1. You've talked about wanting to be a surrogate mother. What do you expect to get out of this experience, and what's the origination of the impulse?
I've heard a lot of women my age say, out of fear or dislike of inconvenience or whatever, say that they would like children but don't want to bear them. My preference would be rather the opposite; I am interested in the physicality of pregnancy but not in the annoying little brat that ensues. This may change, of course, but it would require a certain situation set that I am not anticipating or expecting.
This desire is linked to the reason that I'd like to study fertility/reproductive medicine/infertility. I can identify with the desire to raise a child that is genetically yours. That is just a question of priorities, but I don't think it's specifically bad or good. For some people, though, it is necessary but impossible. I really respect anyone who wants a child so badly, because they love children and want to really connect and make a good, whole person out of the deal.
I also think that this is such a huge favor to be doing for a stranger, and that if I can make that much happiness for another couple it would be a wonderful thing.
That being said, I would be immensely picky about who I would do this for. Both because the attitude of the parents-to-be influences your life for years, and because I'm not giving no baby to some backwards-ass fucks who aren't raging liberals.
*cough*
Basically, I'm not willing to cause a baby to be brought up in an environment that I would not choose.
2. If you could be really good at something you're not, what would it be and why?
I have always longed to be able to play the fiddle well, but have always had trouble with stringed instruments. I occasionally surf ebay for something to practice on, but never end up getting one. I would also love to be able to sing really well, but one thing, really, it would be the fiddle.
Or maybe to be able to sleep like a normal human being, but that's not so much "talent" as "screwy brain."
3. What things are important to you to do before you die?
I can't think of anything in particular that I really must do. The things like exploring space are so far-fetched that I've grown accustomed to the reality that they will likely never happen, and most other things are so intangible (be able to express to people how much I love them, make something I'm proud of) that they can't ever really be checked off a list.
4. What have you learned about love (doesn't have to be the romantic variety) that surprised you?
Nothing that I can think of. It's hard to be surprised by something you know is omnipotent.
5. What have you done that's been the most personally difficult?
Asking for help when I needed it. It's easy to ask for help on little things, every day, but the big stuff is a different question.
Also, trying to live past regret is something intensely difficult that I am still learning to do. I'm not entirely convinced that it's the *right* thing to do, but since you can't change the past it seems like the only option.
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the hedge abides.
